Mental Health

Here’s a blog post I wrote pre-pregnancy and baby but I thought I’d still share it. Someone may need to hear this!

I read something the other day that perfectly described what a lot of us are going through in our late twenties and early thirties. The tweet described these years as the soul crushing years, and in so many ways that is true. The tweet went on to say how most people in this age group are struggling to cope with life changes. Our group of friends is getting smaller, our parents are getting older, and in addition to dealing with that we are dealing with financial messes we created in our early twenties. Many of us are also trying to juggle our new careers, marriage, babies, and our mental and physical health.

“We often are tired, not because we’ve done too much, but because we’ve done too little of what sparks a light in us.”

Alexander Den Heijer

Transitioning form graduate school to working full time was the hardest for me. By the time I entered my career I was my heaviest and was having a hard time motivating myself to get healthy and in shape. This took a toll on my mental health. I would often find myself laying in my room depressed. I wouldn’t go out and if I did it was often to spend money on shoes, makeup, or clothes. I truly believe that everyone at some point in their life deals with some form of depression; the stages after graduate school were definitely mine. I found it hard to cope with these new feeling of stress, depression, and financial instability. I thank God for praying parents, because I often think that if it was not for their prayers and continual love and support I would have sunk deeper into depression. One of the things that really helped me is that my parents instilled in me the love that God has for me and that I could always take things to him in prayer.

Often times we do not want to speak to people about what is going on in our lives because we’re afraid of being judged and find it hard to find someone we can trust. Let’s be real although it may come from a good place often our loved ones can be overly opinionated and judgmental. Even though you may not want to hear it sometimes it’s necessary to listen and process what your loved ones are saying. My mom would often tell me, “Idle hands are the devils playground.” This made me pour a lot more into doing things that I loved. I began to really dabble in makeup, outside activities, and considered taking cosmetology classes. I got out of bed and took more stock in my appearance. I began to make sure that I put more effort into my physical, mental, and emotional health. I started to pamper myself by getting my nails done once a month, keeping my hair done, and often tried to find the cheapest and latest ways to improve my style. I also began to make sure I got out the bed and out the house and tried different activities. I’m sure that my mother meant something more along the lines of community service, but it is hard for someone to be present and help others when they are hurting.

One thing I think that needs to be said is that when you are in a negative or vulnerable space you have to unplug form the matrix. Social media is both a gift and a curse. It’s great for networking and keeping in contact with friends and loved ones, but it also allows an avenue for negative thoughts and people to enter your life. Everything that glitters is not gold and everyone that is smiling in your face is not for you. Time shows peoples true colors and I encourage you to not let negative people and thoughts reside in your life. Social media allows us to see a lot of people’s success but not what it took to get there. With everything there is a process, and everyone’s journey is different.

Ultimately, the most important thing you have to learn during this time of life is how to unwind, relax, and surround yourself with positive and supportive people. You may not have the money to take a trip to Cancun, but you can find a nature trail to hike, kayak, exercise, or travel to interesting locations close to home. This isn’t the time to jump from relationship to relationship. This is the time to continue to get to know yourself and what interest you. Make new friends, enjoy life, explore, save money, but most importantly put God first.

Mental Health Check-in will be a regular segment on the blog. Email me, dm me, or leave me a comment if there is anything you’d like to unload or share. Sometimes just having someone to listen can ease whatever it is your dealing with. Please also take it to God in prayer!

Skims Cotton Lounge Wear Review

It’s time for another review. I must say I was initially not impressed with this line, but check the video out to see what I ended up loving.

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Debt Free 2020: March Update

I hope everyone on this get out of debt journey with me is doing well. I’m not doing as well as I would like but by the end of March I will have paid off roughly $6,000 in debt. I’ve managed to save an additional $2,000 that stays in my savings account. I do have other savings and investment accounts that I recommend you do as well. One way I have been keeping track of my payment history is by using an excel worksheet like the one below. I also have a calendar that list every payment that needs to be made until the end of the year. I find this extremely helpful. I have automatic payments set up for all my bills but now make every payment as soon as I get paid. This has just been what works for me. I encourage you to experiment and figure out what works for you.

Excel Payment Tracker

The good news is that so far I have paid off one credit card. One thing I wish I would have done is followed Dave Ramsey’s advice and used the debt snowball method. The debt snowball method in a nutshell is when you list all your debt in order from smallest to largest and commit to paying it off in that order. As you pay off the smaller debt the money freed up then goes toward paying those larger debts. Typically with the debt snowball method you pay the minimum amount on all debt and put any extra money you have toward paying off the smallest debt. If I would have used that method I would be done paying off three credit cards instead of one.

The route I chose is someone like the debt snowball method. I committed to paying off the smallest debt first, but I also tried to get as much as my debt as possible below half the credit limit. I’m not sure if that was the smartest thing to do, but that’s what I did. I recommend doing some research and speaking with a financial advisor.

Neutrogena Favorite’s

Quick Disclaimer:

I am only a skincare and makeup enthusiast recommending products that I’ve used and enjoyed. As for the product ingredients, I recommend reading the label or looking the ingredient list up online and making your own informed decisions about what is best for you and your skin.

HydroBoost Whipped Body Butter

Neutrogena has some of my favorite drugstore products for sensitive skin. One of my favorite lines from Neutrogena is the Hydro Boost (HB) Line. I love to use the HB Whipped Body Balm, and HB Body Gel Cream – Fragrance Free for my body. If you have dry skin or dry patches I would definitely recommend these products. These two product will have your body feeling smooth and hydrated all day. A few of the facial products I enjoy from this line are the HB City Shield Eye Serum, HB Gentle Cleansing Lotion, HB Cleansing Gel & Oil Free Makeup Remover with Hyaluronic Acid, and the HB Hydrating Overnight Mask. I honestly cannot say enough good things about these products. I like to use the two cleansers to double cleanse when I’m wearing makeup, if I don’t have on makeup I’ll just use the Cleansing Lotion. One thing I don’t like is that neither of these products lather/foam. I know dermatologist suggest we stay away from foaming cleansers because they are drying, irritating, and can cause long-term harm to the skin, but I’m having trouble getting use to non-foaming cleansers. The HB City Shield Eye Serum is the first eye serum I’ve used consistently and it worked wonders. This eye serum helped remove the dark circles around my eyes, and leaves the skin around my eyes feeling supple.

If you try any new makeup products from Neutrogena I recommend these four: Shine Control Matte Booster Face Primer + Serum, Healthy Lips Lip Plumping Serum, Healthy Skin Radiant Setting Spray, Healthy Skin Radiant Cream Concealer (Golden Medium/Deep 01).

The Healthy Skin line is a newer launch that I have been enjoying thus far. The Radiant Cream Concealer is a good alternative for the NARS Creamy Radiant Concealer. I love the setting spray, it provides a nice mist to the skin that helps the makeup settle into the skin. The Face Primer is great for my oily skin as well. I love that it’s not to greasy but provides a nice even canvas for makeup application. If I had to recommend only one of these four products it would be the Lip Plumper. If you’ve followed this blog for a while then you know I love a good moisturizing plumping gloss. I love the applicator on this product and use it every time I apply makeup or lip gloss. It’s also a great product to add to your at home pamper routine. The product does provide a boost of collagen and has a slight plumping affect.

MoistureShine Lip Soother

The MoistureShine Lip Soother has got to be my favorite product from the entire brand. This is my all time favorite lip gloss it doesn’t provide any plumping, which is one of the things I like in a gloss. What I love about the gloss is that it leaves my lips feeling juicy but does not leave them sticky.

Gym Wear Haul

I’m feeling motivated to get back in shape and get in the gym so I picked up some gym wear. I know it’s all in my mind but I feel so much better working out when I look well put together. The video features Gym Shark, Puma, Adidas, and Nike. Give the post a like if you’d like to see more videos like this and let me know what your favorite outfit is.

Gym Wear Haul