Pregnancy Update

First Trimester

Monday’s are the hardest. Sometimes I feel like I’m battling depression, other days I feel like it’s the baby just getting the best of me. It’s really rough for me because I was expecting this to be a great experience. I’ve had migraines for the past seven or more years that I thought were related to my menstrual cycle. Now I’m not having my cycle but I still have the migraines, if anything they are more frequent. I really hate it because I’m always sick, I feel like no matter what I do nothing changes. There is no relief from these migraines. The worst thing about it is it seems like no one cares, nothing stops because I’m not feeling well. I just have to put on my big girl pants and suck it up. I’ve had to start journaling to keep my mind off how miserable I am. My brother asked me why I’m always sick the other day, and even my man has commented on me always being sick. It’s honestly one of the hardest things I’ve had to deal with in my life and I’m miserable I’m thinking about going to counseling.

Second Trimester

Now that I’m late in my second trimester I feel so much better. I’m ALIVE! I no longer am experiencing migranes and the constant need to vomit has passed. I no longer feel sick or want to slap every person around me that is having a good day. I didn’t end up going to counseling, but I do think the journaling really helped me. I’d say that journaling has been my saving grace, as well as reading other mommy blogs. I truly believe that I was depressed early in my pregnancy because of a lot of things, but mainly being away from my man, being sick, worrying about money, and taking time off work when I just started my job. One thing I’ve had to constantly tell myself is that everything is going to be okay. I have a lot of support from my man and our families. One thing I will say is don’t take those feelings of depression lightly. There is a stigma with the word depression, but don’t be afraid to admit that something is wrong and please don’t be afraid to seek help. We all fight our own demons and deal with some form of depression in our lives. You’d be amazed at the amount of people who can relate to what you are going through, and the amount of resources and peoople that are out there to help.

Third Trimester

Right about now I’m really beginning to feel pregnant and experience some of the symptoms that go along with pregnancy. I only have about a month and a half to go and I’m feeling it. I took a weekend trip to the beach and did a lot of walking and not enough drinking and it caused my hands and feet to swell. My hands were tingling and so swollen that it hurt to hold a pen. I couldn’t feel my feet and literally felt like I was walking on ankles. To reduce the swelling I put my feet up and made sure I relaxed and drank a lot of water. Thankfully I haven’t had that problem again. In the grand scheme of things I’m doing really well. Other than being in a constant state of anxiety. I’m just having doubts about my capabilities as a mother, the birthing process, and I’m worrying about taking time off work, money, being able to spend time with my baby, breastfeeding, putting my baby in daycare, and my man having enough time to spend with us.

We currently have 27 days to go and I couldn’t be more thrilled. I can’t wait to see her beautiful face and see how proud her dad is. I’m nervous and absolutely terrified about the birthing process, but I thank God for the support system I have. Thankfully I haven’t had too many issues and the feet swelling is a rare occurrence and for the most part I feel pretty good. I have gotten to the point where some of her movements literally hurt and I just rub on her and talk to her and that helps, but I’m ready for baby girl to get evicted. The most painful, well more so annoying thing is the pressure I feel under my breast. I’m guessing I feel some part of her applying pressure there and it makes me out of breath and makes me not want to wear a bra, which unfortunately is not an option. All in all though baby girl and I are healthy and happy!

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My Number One Pregnancy Must Have

Nipple Cream

www.eraorganics.com/products/organic-nipple-cream

I could honestly write a book on the need for some type of nipple cream while pregnant! Before I even found out I was pregnant I noticed that my breast were growing and becoming more irritated and itchy. Once the pregnancy was confirmed my breast continued to grow at an alarmingly fast rate. The fast rate at which my breast grew only amplified the amount of itching and irritation I felt. I can distinctly remember one morning in my first trimester going to my mom and crying like a baby. It was one of those cries that comes from the soul, with snot dripping out my nose (come on now you know what I’m talking about). I was in so much pain my breast were bleeding, yes bleeding! They hurt so bad I just wanted to rip them off my chest. Needless to say Ma Dukes was not for the drama (or snot). So I called Chris (baby daddy) and told him about it. After a quick google search he told me to try Lansinoh, which is 100% Lanolin. I would say Lanolin is the consistency of Vaseline, but is obviously better for you than rubbing petroleum jelly on your breast. Lansinoh provided temporary relief but it wasn’t quite doing the job. One thing I will say is that it worked better than the all-natural coconut oil and shea butter I was trying previously. Ladies please note that Lansinoh will ruin your clothes by giving them grease stains.

Here’s What Really Worked

Moisturize your breast prior to showering. I had to slather my breast with lanolin prior to showering. I tried other things like all natural olive oil, cocoa butter, coconut oil, and shea butter, but the consistency of the lanolin worked best. The Mama Mia Keep Calm Nipple Balm works as well.

Stop taking hot showers! This one is kind of a no brainer, but it took me a while to realized that my hot showers were drying out my breast. Hot water dries out and further irritates dry skin (duh).

Use sensitive skin soap. I noticed that my breast were the most irritated after I showered, so I figured my soap had something to do with that. The soap that I found works best is Dove Sensitive Skin.

Moisturize your breast after you shower. While your skin is stretching and expanding it is so important to keep it moisturized. After I shower I like to use a Nipple Balm or Cream. I sometimes will use the Mama Mia Keep Calm Nipple Balm, but I prefer Era Organics Healing Balm Extra Soothing & Moisturizing, Era Organics Honeybuns Mommy Balm, or Motherlove Nipple Cream.

Use nursing pads. If I feel like I am about to have a really bad flare up I will saturate my breast with a mixture of lanolin and healing balm and cover them with the nursing pads.

Let your breast breathe. If you don’t have anywhere to go I recommend letting your breast get some air. Not having clothes or a bra rub against them really helps. Just apply some balm or cream and be free baby!

https://www.eraorganics.com/products/natural-baby-balm

Products Mentioned:

Lansinoh HPA Lanolin, Mother Love Nipple Cream*, Mama Mia Keep Calm Nipple Balm, Era Organics Honeybuns Mommy Balm*, Era Organics Healing Balm Extra Soothing & Moisturizing*

* These products are USDA Organic Certified

Please note photos taken directly from @eraorganics