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Is this supposed to make me sad?

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What were your parents doing at your age?

Thinking about where my parents were at my age and where I am currently makes me sad. By my age, my parents were happily married with my sister and I. They both were in their careers and had the family the house, the farm, and the dogs. I think most would say they had the American dream.

In my mid 30s, I can’t hold a relationship for more than a year and am single parent. I don’t want to say that as if that’s a bad thing; I am in my career, I do have a roof over my head and my child and I want for nothing. I’ve also met a pretty amazing man.

Somewhere in the past 30 years the American dream has shifted; or dare I say seems unattainable by 30. I would love to have a strong foundation grounded in a love for Christ, a happy marriage, a healthy home, and a safe environment to raise kids. I’m thinking that will happen by 40.

The gag is, I thought I would be married by the time I was 30 with three kids. 🙃 Here I am losing my mind with one kid and single! Life has a way of humbling you, but I do believe things happen when you’re ready to receive them.

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4 responses to “Is this supposed to make me sad?”

  1. cabinfever12 Avatar
    cabinfever12

    I knew what I wanted to do by the time I was 12. I had every bit of my life planned out down to the Tudor-style home I would remodel. I did NOT expect to have to raise my siblings at 16 and put off college for almost a decade. I also did not expect to be a mom of 3 amazing boys by 30 and a mom to my beautiful daughter at 41. I would not change a thing, though. Life is life and all you can do is your best. You have your faith in the right place and a good head on your shoulders. I think you’ll be just fine.

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    1. fromfarmingtofashion Avatar
      fromfarmingtofashion

      Thank you so much for your kind words. One foot in front of the other, that’s what I remind myself.

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  2. oliveunicorn Avatar
    oliveunicorn

    it’s okay I’ve just learned to go with it, all my friends and myself included have way varying lives and lifestyles. I probably have a more laid back lifetsyle but I definitely want to own my own house, don’t really want kids but it would be awesome to be a home owner. The issue is where I live is very expensive so I just try to enjoy where I’m at now , I have fiancé and some dogs and I’m really happy that I can do things I do . And I’m sure you’re doing the best with your children and keeping them happy and having a career too ! Also comparing to parents can be tough a they lived in a totally different economic time as well. I guess my point is it’s your life and you should be proud to accomplish what you can not to be too hard on yourself , as you seem like a really nice and inspiring person !

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    1. fromfarmingtofashion Avatar
      fromfarmingtofashion

      Thank you so much! I try not to be too hard on myself and to enjoy every stage of the journey.

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